Size isn’t everyting – your “size” is good enough!
Everyone aiming to educate you on the subject of sex has to write something about the size of a dick. It’s one of the holy grail subjects of sex, so I will also add myself to the long list of people who are opinionated about the size of the most important male organ. There can be no doubt that to us men it is the most important male organ. We spend an extraordinary amount of time caressing it, examining it, talking to it, admiring it and training it.
Any man who cannot relate to any of the above, instantly qualifies as sexually deficient and should quickly find out what is causing the wrong wiring.
For all the others let me start with…of course, size matters, but luckily for us men, and I am referring to 80% of the male population, dick size alone is not the only important male attribute to greatly satisfy your woman. Men with large cocks have a certain advantage you might say, but it’s not true entirely. Many women actually prefer the average cock size over the huge versions, as the huge versions can be very hurtful during hard vaginal penetration and not every woman likes to choke on a large monster when trying to suck it off, let alone enduring an oversize cock during anal play.
Believe it or not, but as much as women may fantasize about sex with a large cock, they are also afraid of it for the same reasons. Here is a fact; most women like their dicks average size. The emphasis is on the word average and unfortunately a certain percentage of men don’t make the cut and fall below the average size threshold, which can cause a sexual incompatibility problem, especially if the woman’s pussy isn’t tight (or very tight) by nature.
Ah yes, and then there is sex after birth, which leads to an extension of a woman’s pussy size and what might once felt right and satisfying to both partners, is now not sexually gratifying. Women can choose to undergo a surgical size adjustment to correct this, but if not, then “small” men need to be very inventive and quickly adapt to get exceptionally versed in non-dick induced female orgasms.
I would also like to point out that man have a very wrong picture of what the right cock size should be. Why is that? Well…porn of course.
In one of my previous posts I hailed porn as an important contributor to the overall sexual education of men (and women, if they just watched more), but I also warned to see it for what it is - a visual instruction guide with sleazy scripts and supersized sex organs. Never did I say you should believe everything you see. Especially when it comes to dick sizes. Every job requires specific qualifications and the job description for a superstud actor in a porn flick has “huge cock” listed as a mandatory requirement. As you can imagine these men do not fall into the status quo category. Next time you see a huge cock on the tube just brush it off and tell yourself “what the fuck”, and make sure not to fall into the self pity trap and get intimidated by the porn industry’s false projection of the male fuck organ.
I’d hate to know that you fell for this crap and that you are among the group of men that click on one of the countless banners or spam pop ups on the web that falsely promise to increase your dick size by 10 inches, only by rubbing it with a “special” crème. Please don’t be that desperate as it is ignorant (or rather pathetic) to believe this actually works. Many of the world’s most influential, most powerful and most admired men have average sized dicks – and that’s another fact. I bet they weren’t waving their dick around to reach this status and if they didn’t have to, then you surely don’t have to as well. I still have to meet one of those leaders intentionally stuffing his crotch area with a pair of socks to improve his externally projected manhood.
To conclude this subject I would like to add that well hung men might experience problems to reach a stiff erection and that they might not be able to experience the sensation of a full penetration. Now that sucks! Furthermore many women come faster (however, better fast than never, but that’s a subject of a different post) when being fucked by a large cock and experience a drop in their sexual appetite after peaking. Believe me, there is not much fun in fucking a woman that is just waiting for you to come just so it can be over quickly. The rule is to have a good enough size and the knowledge and experience to handle it well.
Next time you find yourself alone talking to your dick, just let him know that he has what it takes to do the job. A little prep talk never hurt. Life is hard, the harder the better.
Bald is sexy
No, no, this is not related to the fact that I lost my hair some years ago. Although there are enough women that will testify that a bald headed man is sexy. I for that matter relate this to the high levels of testosterone that strongly attribute to hair loss and have women link this (rightfully) to an insatiable male libido…well I rest my case.
However, baldness is not only related to the hair growing on one’s head. As a matter of fact there seems to be a growing trend to remove hair from many areas of the body. Men so hurtfully try to remove unwanted hair from their chest and back area and even undergo a painful full body hair waxing to reach a clean and smooth look.
Women of course, are supposed to always be smooth and clean (society dictates it) or has anyone lately seen a porno staring hairy actors? We certainly have moved way (way!) beyond the seventies. Still many women are opposed to removing the access hair on their legs, arms and foremost, under their armpits? Now honestly, that’s not sexy at all. Although I would like to argue that man can definitely get away with a hairy chest (yes, many women actually love it), but as it goes for women, today there is no excuse not to shave up. Hairy women are just not sexually appealing and unless it’s an unfortunate medical condition, then the only reason for not waxing excess hair is pure laziness or ignorance. Therefore women shouldn’t be surprised if the only thing standing between them and a good lay is some hair in the wrong places (esthetically speaking of course). The rule should be: Don't let a hairy situation ruin your sex life.
So what about your crotch - I mean the hair growing between your pussy, dick and ass? Do you love it clean or do you prefer it wild? There seems to be strong global trend for women to have a clean shaven pussy. I love it. It is a beautiful sight and very sexy. It for sure is more exciting than a hairy, bushy pussy and since more and more women prefer wearing thongs, it has become a necessity to keep the pussy clean. Let’s also not forget intimate jewelry. A clean pussy is the only way to display the rings, stubs and gems artfully attached to the pussy lips.
What about sex? Going down on a shaven pussy is of course, much more pleasing. Your tongue has a free pass and doesn’t have to fend off curly hairs that are a hindrance to a tasteful front-facial orgasmic experience. There are even more advantages. The fingers that were occupied to hold back the pussy hair are now free to provide supplementary finger action. Gone are the days of hairy situations, where you try to remove a hair that has wandered too deep down your throat. And fucking a shaven pussy gives you a full display without a bush blocking the view.
Women, if you don’t want to shave or wax your pussy completely you can do it partially, which can even be sexier, just as long as you remove all the hair around your pussy lips. Keep a small and trimmed bush, which even acts like an erotic signal pointing in the right direction.
And men, yes you too! You actually believe woman like sucking cock that is covered in hair? You think they love it when they nearly throw up because a hair is stuck down their throat? You too have to shave and trim the hair around your dick. Try going Kojak and you’ll find out that your cock suddenly looks bigger, and while you’re at it, don’t forget to shave your balls. Hairy balls just don’t cut it. A tip, don’t wonder why your balls itch the next day after you shaved them. It’s the hair growing and you’ll get used to it. What’s for sure, it’s definitely worth the look on your woman’s face when she sees your bald dick for the first time.
Then you’ll know…bald is sexy.
- Love is Good Sex -
Less sex is more
What is he talking about? Some of you will say. If sex is the fuel that keeps the relationship going wouldn’t it then be better to make sure that the tank is always full? First of all, let’s be realistic. We can go on a full tank for quiet a distance before we need to refuel again (especially women), but as I mentioned in my previous post, we need to make sure to keep an eye on the fuel gauge at all times or we risk having the engine die on us. The actual question needs to be… When is the right time to refuel and if we have to fill up the tank whenever we pass by a gas station?
The response is a little tricky for the “when” part, but as for the “if” my answer has to be NO. This explanation is of course, more relevant to the male readership and if you still haven’t figured out the metaphor here it is in plain English.
A hard dick is no compelling reason to fuck your woman!
It definitely is a pre-requisite, but that’s it.
So when should we get sexual with our woman? Definitely when she is in a good mood or as I like to say it more bluntly, when her fuck receptors are all tuned into our wave length. The tricky part is to balance between our sexual drive pattern and our woman’s, which is nearly never in sync. We men in general need to fuck much more than women, which is why we are masters at masturbation.
There is simply no way a woman can keep up with a dick-driven creature when it comes to scratching the itch (if you are a woman with a male sexual appetite then consider yourself a rare and natural curiosity. This also means your man is either very lucky or very tired). Which brings me to the actual point…more sex doesn’t imply good sex and for sure not mutually satisfying sex. We should strive to make every sexual encounter a good one (at least) and aim for a great fuck (of course) keeping both sides happy (for sure).
Humping your woman every day (you wish) will never lead down the path of great and mutually satisfying sex. Seven times out of ten (that’s 70%...) your woman is doing you a favor by spreading her legs. Don’t get men wrong, the proverb states – Don’t look a gift horse in the mouth - but on the other hand don’t expect to find sexual bliss by redeeming every gift coupon. I strongly suggest giving up the hunt for sexual mediocrity and to aim for great and mutually satisfying sex. My fellow men, this means you will masturbate more and when you do, keep in mind that…less sex is more.
- Love is good sex -
Who comes first?
The answer to this question my dear fellow men MUST be she! Unfortunately however, it’s just not the case in most heterogeneous relationships (of course, she will always come first in a lesbian setup)…which makes me actually wonder if this is the reason why more and more women are willing to try out a same-sex experience. Are we men really ready to give up our reign over the pussy? Hell NO.
This however requires man to rethink his current sexual standpoint and come to terms with the fact that the current pussy treatment isn’t cutting it anymore. Too many men just live in a state of ignorance when they actually believe that they are satisfying their woman sexually.
Woman on the other hand are either too afraid to let their man know that they are rarely enjoying the sex act and more so, many women have given up to instruct their male partners how they would like to be treated sexually. So who is more to blame, the man for not knowing better or not making the effort to learn? Or the woman for keeping her frustration bottled up until the mounting pressure cannot be controlled any longer leaving nothing but shattered glass behind.
For most of the men the act of fucking constitutes 80-90% of the sexual experience and this is especially true for men that live in longer relationships. It’s as if the longer the relationship lasts, the less effort is being poured into the sexual act itself. Men turn into self-pleasers and this of course, can only lead to a bad place.
When relationships are fresh most men somehow still want to impress their woman by trying to suppress a non-female-orgasm ejaculation, but with every additional month into the relationship this courtesy seems to be less apparent until it at some point it completely vanishes.
Men, if you haven’t noticed – Your woman is pissed off at you. It’s time for you to change your pussy attitude and make sure your woman comes first! Isn’t this entrenched in our male genes as protectors of the weaker female sex? About time you turn into a fucking gentleman. A gentleman ALWAYS let’s a woman go first…now it’s time to make her come first!
- Love is good sex -
Love is Good Sex
This is my mantra and it should become yours as well. It is especially true for people living in a “loving” relationship. There simply cannot be love without good sex, but the emphasis is on the word GOOD. So let’s define good sex or maybe you are wondering why it shouldn’t be great sex. Well, great is just an extension of good whereas bad is the antagonist. Bad sex ruins everything! You might not notice it immediately, but it’s like cancer that if not caught in the beginning slowly but relentlessly spreads until it becomes a fatal disease. It undermines the foundations of your relationship until the House of Love comes tumbling down in an instant and irreversible plunge. The sad story is that most couples are oblivious to the obvious signs (sometimes they are over-sized billboards) or even worse, they ignore them on purpose to avoid the painful confrontation with reality – which is that their sex life sucks.
Now the thing is that it’s possible to have good sex without love. Some of the best fucking actually happens when feelings are not part of the equation, but don’t kid yourself – Love without good sex is just an excuse, and a sad one. Love needs to be continuously nurtured and maintained in order for it to exist.
Some of you will argue that you need trust, honesty, passion and respect to make a relationship work. And you are right, all of these values are crucial elements, but they are inherently integrated in Love. Love is nothing but a complex puzzle consisting of these and some other important values. But…sex is the fuel. It keeps the love machine going and whenever your relationship tank is running low on gas, you need sex to fill it up again or your engine will die.
Many couples do let the engine die and then are too tired to walk a few miles to reach the next gas station. As long as you regularly pull up to the gas station to fill up your tank you are making sure your relationship secures additional mileage. So if sex is the gas that keeps the love machine running and love keeps the relationship alive…then you better make sure you are choosing a high octane mix, which is GOOD for the engine – by the way, while you’re at it, don’t forget to fill up your jerrycan as well. You never know when you might need it to reach the next gas station...and lastly, please fucking check your fuel gauge NOW!
Hard Core education…
The majority of people will not utter the words education and porn in a single sentence. Porn is still considered by most people to be a dirty business, a sleazy way of satisfying the (still mainly male) urge to jerk off and to round it off, the main reason women believe they are being objectified. All True!!!
But…and there’s a big but (I am of course, referring to the word written with one T). I guess it all depends on the angle of observation whether to say porn is good or bad. So from where I stand now porn is damn good education!
Halt…some will shout out loud, how can you say that? I say shut up, watch and learn. What you are looking at are professionals at work. Who else, but hard working porn stars, is more suited to show you the ropes when it comes to sucking, licking and fucking. Porn is liberating in so many ways, as it visualizes what we dare to fantasize about. By the way this is also true of women…
The big problem however is that many men see past the educational value that porn has to offer, which I attribute to the fact that much of the blood was rerouted from the brain to the dick. If you strip away all the clichés associated with porn and the overly exaggerated and often ridiculous plot, which has strangers fucking in a matter of minutes, then there is much that can be learned from seeing a “good” professional in action. The way they use their god given tool, they way they lick a woman’s pussy and of course, the near endless creativity in finding new positions to fuck a women, all in hope of hitting the g-spot.
Woman on the other hand can learn plentiful as well. There are lots of handy and oral tricks they could pick up to surprise their partner. There are positions and supporting tools they could build in to their fuck routine to create a mutually beneficial sexual experience. It’s just sad that most women are averse to watching porn – so here’s a plea to all the women that read this. Watch more porn!
Do it together with your man and then out of the blue tell him you want to try out everything or most of the kinky stuff the “professionals” are doing. One important tip though. You better make sure it is you who picks out the porn flick, as you wouldn’t want to go full throttle hard core the first time around – or then again...?
Foreplay or Coreplay that is the true question
Are you a man who’s in to foreplay? Meanings are you a man who enjoys playing with your woman before actually fucking her? And when I refer to playing I envision you licking (eating) her pussy, applying frivolous fingerspiel or as a matter of fact doing both and more.
If you are such a man then your chances of satisfying your woman sexually just increased by a tenfold.
For many, if not most, women foreplay is the real fun part of sex and your dick action is only secondary. If you are good at using your dick then it might be considered the icing on the cake, but men should come to terms with the fact that foreplay (yeah, pussy licking) is actually coreplay to women and that using the tongue to skillfully maneuver around a woman’s pussy area is the true measurement to judge a man’s sexual performance.
Man shouldn’t rely on their dick to get a woman to come, as a matter of fact it is much more difficult (physically speaking) to get a woman to reach an orgasmic peak by fucking her, than by knowing how to eat her pussy. Let’s be frank. Most men are just not able to keep up the fuck rhythm long enough to get a woman to reach her orgasmic peak and unwillingly (or willingly) spurt of their load before she can reach an orgasm.
I guess man has still to fight off his uncontrollable urge to stick his hard cock into a woman’s pussy whenever the occasion presents itself, whereas he could pleasure his woman easier and better, if only a little more patience was exerted by inducing the wetness between their woman’s legs through oral intervention.
So…my fellow men. Get used to licking pussy and make damn sure you get better at it. Make it a rule to make your woman come (at least once) with your tongue before you hand controls over to Willie to finish the job. Don’t think with your dick and let your tongue do all the talking.
Sex and Satisfaction
Hey World - this is the way WordPress greets you when you are about to enter your first post. Hey World I say, I am excited to write my first post and share with you my philosophy on sex.
As the name of my blog indicates sex and satisfaction go hand in hand - or do they?
Sadly not too often and even worse, it is probably even less. Does it have to be that way? Fuck NO!
Before you read on please make sure that the word FUCK is part of your dictionary as I will be often using a more commonly used language to describe my thoughts. There is no sugar coating on my blog and I will cut right to the chase to get to the point. Mostly men will be more susceptible to the common language and if this is what it takes to get my message through then be it.
Sex should always (or mostly) be satisfying. It often is, but if you look more carefully it is often only a one sided deal. Sexual satisfaction has to extend to both parties, but in mostly never does. Are you in a relationship where you are not sexually satisfied? Are you the one in the relationship that thinks - hell, the sex i have is satisfying - did you ever stop and wonder if your partner sees it the same way?
Sex my dear readers, is the most important aspect in a relationship - satisfying sex of course. Sex is then engine, the oxygen and the energy that keep your relationship together. Without good sex no relationship can survive and that's the hard truth. The sooner you understand that sex makes your world go round (it really isn't money) then the sooner you will understand that all the problems in your relationship can be traced back to the lack of good and mutually satisfying sex.
Knowing and accepting this fact gives you the chance to fix the situation - if it isn't already too late - and set your relationship on a course of happiness.
I invite you to follow my posts as I reveal and tackle the problems that have most couples throw in the towel and give up.
It doesn't have to be that way.
Know your partner, fuck your partner and love your partner. Very simple actually.
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